Is it true that women in relationships have a back up plan incase the relationship does not work?

According to a recent survey it shows that 50% of Women in Relationships Having a Backup Plan

This has generated a lot of debate and analysis, bringing up issues such as the breaking up of romantic relationships, changing perceptions of women, and the effects on current dating dynamics. During our coffee Bar which was attended by 32 youths,28 were males and 4 were females; we explored on the idea of a “backup plan,” how common it is, potential causes, and how it affects relationships.

In the context of romantic relationships, a “backup plan” is a potential romantic partner or another choice for a relationship that an individual might think about in the event that their current relationship ends. This person could be a close friend, an ex-partner, a co-worker, or someone they are romantically interested in but haven’t started seeing or is planning to because of their current relationship status.

According to surveys, about half of women in committed relationships have thought about or actively keep up a backup plan. Even though some people find this figure shocking, it illustrates a realistic approach to relationships in which women and men alike are becoming more conscious of the risks associated with long-term relationships.

Youths’ perspective on the possible reasons behind this trend

• Negative Past Experiences: Some women keep a backup plan in place as a defence against emotional distress in the future, coming from past negative experiences like betrayal or abrupt breakups. Having a backup plan can ease worries about the future and provide a sense of stability. “Dust is constant so heri kutafuta shade mapema,since hana mpango wa kukuoa” One participant said
• When goals don’t align you find someone who you think is closer to what you want to achieve in your life.
• Expectations-most ladies are used to living in fantasy so if you are unable to meet their desired expectations, they think the relationship is boring and not working as they expected.
• Changing times: Conventional expectations no longer hold as much effect on modern relationships. The stigma associated with having several is no longer there. Although it’s too much work to multitask.
• Technology and social media: Keeping in touch with possible love partners has become easier due to the ease with which people can interact on social media and through dating apps. The creation of backup plans may be made easier by this improved connectivity, frequently without the primary partner’s knowledge.
• Finance: Compared to earlier generations, women now have more financial and social power. Because of their independence, women may become more cautious in their relationships, making sure they have other options in case their present one ends badly in order to safeguard their financial ability.
• Fear of Loneliness: Some women may keep a back plan because they are afraid of being alone or lonely. The backup plan might reassure individuals that they won’t be left alone in the event that their current relationship ends.

Youths’ perspective on the impacts of back-ups on relationships

• Trust issues: The foundation of any relationship is trust, and it can be destroyed if one spouse finds out about the other’s backup plan. The awareness that one spouse is thinking of other options can lead to feelings of betrayal, jealously, and insecurity.
• Most men when asked if it is okay to have a back up plan said that they need to combine those back up plans and their current partner
• If it does not work it means the relationship was bond on not to work so don’t put pressure on yourself “kama dem hakutaki wachana na yeye ajidate’’one participant said
• If you find out that she has a backup plan don’t try to prove a point just move on
• “As my man you need to step up and be better than my back up plan’’ Another participant said
• Levels of Commitment: Keeping a backup plan in place itself implies a lack of total dedication to the present partnership. As a result, the relationship may not develop to its full potential since one partner may constantly be looking out for themselves.
• Emotional Distancing: Having a fallback option could cause emotional distance in a partnership. A spouse’s emotional investment in another person or their ideas about a possible partner might negatively impact the quality and closeness of their existing relationship.
• Relationship Durability: Partnerships with one or both partners who keep backup plans may be less likely to last since the psychological commitment to other options may make it more difficult to resolve problems in the present relationship.

Who cheats the most in relationships?

Most youths said ladies cheat the most in the relationships since they hold the most power and control the relationships.

Most rich men have back up plans

Men are enablers in most relationships since they entertain cheating ladies and don’t necessarily have boundaries when it comes to saying no to cheating partners.

Convenience-most ladies love where they are convenient, being with a partner who is convenient for them

Gen-z do not want serious relationships where you have to fully commit to one partner; most said that its boring.

Open relationships is the new thing but it does not favor men, it only favors women unlike men since they are limited

One needs to know their partners sex drive in order to prevent circumstances where they have to cheat in order to get satisfied.

Conclusion

The tendency among women to have a fallback plan in their relationships is a reflection of larger shifts in gender roles, relationship dynamics, and society standards. Although it might provide personal security, it also raises questions about the soundness and stability of interpersonal bonds. Successful partnerships still rely heavily on communication, commitment, and trust; having a backup plan puts these foundations at risk. It will be essential to comprehend the causes of this trend and deal with any potential negative effects as relationships continue to change in order to promote strong and long-lasting bonds.