Do you believe that relationships can work and endure? Is there always something that motivates and sustains relationships? These were the topics of discussion at this week’s coffee bar gathering, where we explored the elements that contribute to a successful and healthy relationship. While there is no definitive manual for making a relationship work, it is normal for relationships to experience ups and downs.

Our conversation began with an exploration of the meaning of relationships and the individuals involved. For the purpose of our discussion, we considered any type of relationship that involves two people seeking companionship. Long-lasting relationships are not merely a result of luck; they require significant effort from both partners. Our focus was to simplify the discussion around relationship health and stay on track. We discussed the signs that indicate a healthy relationship or the factors that contribute to a good relationship.

Participants shared various factors they believed to be crucial in maintaining a healthy relationship. Some of these factors were derived from personal experiences, while others were observations from different situations. Among the recurring signs mentioned were financial stability, effective communication, love, understanding, self-awareness, positive energy, sexual compatibility, personal growth, security, mutual respect, trust, establishment of relationship boundaries, sexual history, and emotional connection.

Communication emerged as one of the most frequently mentioned and impactful qualities that make a relationship work and remain healthy. The ability to freely discuss any topic with your partner without fear of judgment builds trust within the relationship. Lack of communication has been identified as a significant red flag in many relationships. It is essential not only to talk frequently but also to communicate effectively. Being able to openly discuss any subject without fear of judgment is vital.

“…….to ensure a relationship functions smoothly, there must be good, open, and clear communication between the two individuals.” One participant said

During the discussion, the conversation veered off track when the topic of sexual history came up. Is a person’s sexual history important in a relationship? Some participants felt that one should be cautious about a partner’s sexual history before entering into a relationship, while others believed that it should not be a concern. Some ladies present pointed out that this question is often used to demean women and is outdated.

“It is important to know your partner’s sexual history or body count as it can provide insight into their sexual experience and help you make informed decisions about your own sexual activity.” one participant said

Understanding both your own needs and the needs of others is instrumental in building better relationships. When entering into a relationship, each individual seeks to gain something. Understanding your desires within the relationship creates space for it to thrive while also respecting your partner’s boundaries.

Maintaining a healthy and functional relationship is important as it saves time, energy, and heartache. Learning to cultivate and sustain the qualities necessary for a healthy relationship is crucial. It is worth noting that some work relationships will be more challenging than others, but with thought, time, and effort, everything will work for you two. See you on Tuesday!